John and I met in September of 2004 (I was 19 and he had just turned 21) and spent our third date moving my stuff into our new apartment. We got engaged soon after and married on November 17, 2006 in a courthouse with two witnesses. That's almost four years ago and is the reason why I'm bringing this up. People often ask us what we're doing for our anniversary and are surprised when we don't have any special plans in mind. We have both time and money to get dressed up, go out to a nice restaurant and buy each other gifts or anything like that but we'd rather not. What I really want is for every day to be meaningful and to appreciate all our time together.
Today (a day with no historical significance to me) was just as enjoyable or perhaps more than my wedding day. We shared a bowl of brussel sprouts while John read a chapter aloud from Early Retirement Extreme (something we do when we both want to read the same book at the same time) and talked about some of the concepts. It's after discussions like that when I feel our relationship has ascended to a deeper level—something I didn't particularly experience when our legal status changed from single to married. So if I had to celebrate anything, it would be the days when we have the kind of talks that lead to a greater understanding of each other and ourselves. Since that happens all the time, close to every day, I'd have time for nothing else if I allowed myself to get too distracted by anniversaries.
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